They bloody lied to me, life does not begin at forty!

So this is my present state of play. Just in case you should want to know it.

Starting from my scalp:

My scalp is somewhat tight because in an effort to keep my hair away from my neck (you’ll learn more about that later), I have bundled my crows nest fake auburn tresses upon the top of my head. My saving grace, in that department, is that I have a bright, shiny, new scrunchy, which really is something to get excited about when you have four kids and are a little more than forty years old.

I look a little like a scarecrow.

With extra straw.

Following downwards my brain is stuffed. Not with the lovely brains and wisdom of my fully spent youth. But with good old fashioned snot. Lots of it. I’ve tried blowing it out. I’ve tested setting it free with a nasal spray. I’ve attempted to shower it out with a nasal irrigation device, but at best, I only dripped. I’ve even done my utmost to pump it into oblivion with a special sinus attachment for my nebuliser; but to no avail.

So my head? It hurts. Somewhat.

My eyes are actually fine. Well, with the exception that I need to take my glasses off in order to see something that’s right there in front of my face.

I’ve discovered, on kissing my husband goodnight, that he is indeed quite a handsome fellow.

My nose is very dry. And bright red.

I have recently heard the name Rudolph being brandished about…

My skin is peeling, especially on my face. It seems to be some kind of wicked side effect to my immune suppressants. I’ve plateaued at a kind of flaky-old-lady with a chaffed look niveau.

I have attempted to replenish the skin with various lotions and potions but my now immune suppressed body reacts with a fiery, burning wrath rash when I do so. So, I’ve resolved to stay flaky and remember back to yesteryear when it seemed, somehow, like being called flaky was some kind of compliment.

My neck. Ah yes my neck.

Yesterday, it was fine. Although my shoulder was attempting to be a little troublesome…

Then this morning, it complained (a lot) that I had slept wrongly in my bed.

I gently turned it this way and that. I told it, that we were finally out of bed and that, really, it doth protest too much. I promised it a nice warm scarf and a massage.

Then I sneezed.

One almighty sneeze.

And ever since that moment, I have looked like someone shoved a plank up my back as I can now only manoeuver with my whole body when turning to my right.

Hence then my crows nest; it’s the only possible way to stand a chance of the heat patch glue actually staying glued to my neck. That and the quadruple insulation scarf I have wrapped seventeen times around it.

My shoulders are now okay. Ish.

But my lungs? Well, er, let’s keep it short and just say they are competing on the whole mucus front thing.

Glad tidings from my throat though, considering how much I’ve been coughing, my throat is feeling fine. I suspect that’s down to the incredible volume of onion juice and honey I’ve been knocking back.

A little point of interest: my boobs are south facing. South facing!! How did that happen?


Anyway, my hips, ah yes, my left hip twinges. You got it: Twinges.

And my stomach, well, it feels a little nauseous, but, to be honest I’m putting that down to the incredible volume of onion juice and honey I’ve been knocking back.

My lovely Crohn’s bowel? It loves immune suppressants (in stark contrast to every other body part I own) so it’s absolutely fine and dandy.

Though, (and this information I only normally give out on a need to know basis), my bottom cheeks are continuously clenched together, nowadays, in an attempt to maintain a grip on my bloody grapevine otherwise known as my piles.

My left knee is trying to convince doctors that I was some kind of heroic sportswoman, with a pretty array of meniscus tears. But I’ve told them, quite emphatically, I generally stuck to gentle walking. Albeit I did tend to cover large distances, seeing as I am a woman and not a feminist one at that. Therefore, I can freely admit that I cannot park. Not to save myself. Which in turn means that I have always had to abandon my vehicle in the largest possible space I could find. Of course, that then has always happened to be the space that is furthest away from my desired destination. And I also have a tendency to forget where I parked my car, in that good old flaky spirit of mine, so that has, on many occasions led to some gentle strolling too. Not gentle on the nerves, mind you. There was, at times, quite a lot of shouting. And some swearing too. But I doubt that either of those things would have affected my left knee.

And while I’m bearing my soul; my right knee is sympathizing.

Which I don’t need.

I’m quite capable of feeling sorry for my left knee all by myself.

Don’t be thinking that I’m body-sidist, but what on earth is going on with my left foot?

It has some strange lump on it that doctors insist on poking, with an unnecessary fury and injecting concoctions into which has not improved matters in the least.

But the good news is: we live in modern times.

I joked with my daughter, the other day, “By the time you bury me I’ll be half plastic.”

My husband, who apparently still loves me, despite my decrepit frame, retorted, “Titanium, you’ll be made of titanium, it lasts longer.”

After I recovered from his unusual interlude of romanticism, my first thought was, “Wow, I’ll be the one setting off all the alarms at the airport!”

Then I had a little premonition. I realised, long before my own death, exactly what song will play out at my funeral:


“I am titanium……”

29 Replies to “They bloody lied to me, life does not begin at forty!”

  1. They weren’t kidding when they said everything falls apart after you turn 40, were they? I feel plain just reading your list of ailments and injuries. Just know you’re not alone. I watched The Wolverine this weekend and could only think that it would be so nice to heal as fast as Hugh Jackman, never feeling pain in your body. Wishful thinking…

    1. They weren’t! Perhaps by the time we’re 50 they’ll have invented something?

      I think I read recently that Hugh Jackman himself is recovering from cancer – awful. Well, wonderful that he’s recovering though – if you know what I mean.

      1. Oh no, I had no idea. Looks like basic skin cancer, not surprising for someone living in the sun most of the year. That’s one thing I don’t like about San Diego. The sun sounds great when you don’t live here, but we constantly have to wear sunscreen or hats. I’ve been using it less often in the winter but I think it’s time to put it back on for all of us.

        1. Sunscreen is so important. I think men tend to be even less inclined to wear it.

          I need to look into that too, last year my skin didn’t react very well to sunscreen anymore!

          1. I only choose sunscreens that include titanium oxide in them (among other things). That’s the ONLY ingredient that actually blocks the sun almost completely, especially in the water. Most suncreens with fancy ingredients aren’t very helpful in the San Diego sun.

            1. Thanks for that. I’m going to take a look at our sunscreen. One of my children has an allergy to sunscreen and can only use one particular hypoallergenic brand. I’m so careful to slather her in it because a few days after she was born (while still in the hospital) a dodgy mole grew on her finger. The doctors decided it should be removed in two stages. They removed half but six months later, in time for the next planned op, it grew to double the size. They then removed the whole thing in a oner. But at least we don’t get as much sun here as in San Diego.

  2. Hehehe! Now that’s over sharing… And one of the reasons we love you. 😀

    (I’ve missed you. Always delighted to see you pop up in my inbox. X)

  3. Oh dear… I’m feeling pretty good myself!
    Dare I say (whilst risking your wrath) that your ‘present state of play’ will eventually come to an end?
    Your humorous description on the state of your health blew me away….brilliant! You have a way with words……

    1. I’m glad you enjoyed it.
      I really do hope my present state of play will come to an end, so please, please keep on saying it. 🙂

  4. Oh cheer up, it only gets worse. Look at the bright side,your teeth should outlast you. My son says when you are cremated, they have to grind the remaining bone and teeth material. I wonder what they do with the Titanium bits?

  5. And still you find your humor to cope with neck, knees and feet and other body parts. I am so proud of you. Try screaming ‘ENOUGH ALREADY!!!!!’ every now and them. Perhaps someone will hear and give you a break health wise. My poor sweet Sarah, take care! *hugs*

  6. Sarsm,
    I have to confess that I laughed at your misfortune… not that I wish any of it for you but that snot thing, YES, Yes, Yes ! At LAST someone said it out loud. We have ALL been there at some point or other, it’s nice to hear someone admit it.

    My left foot and my back send Yours condoluences, they understand each other. Do whatever you can to be comfortable and get well soonest.

    There has been a bug doing the rounds in the Netherlands, Kiwi Daughter had tummy troubles and fever last week, the Dr said a quarter of the country has had it sometime in recent weeks, so stay in bed and don’t spread it. Luckily the rest of the family resisted her attempts to share.

    The boobs thing, oh yes! I can actually pick up the Girls and place them one at a time into my bra cups when I’m getting my bra sitting comfy, long gone are the days when they were pert and pointy and Gravity was just a song on the radio.

    Gray hair? I called it “sun bleached” for as long as I could but then Kiwi Daughter got rude (ok… honest) and told me look like an Old Lady, with the worst hair ever. To be honest my hair is thin and hard to manage, it’s always been the worst hair ever, it probably just that she was too young in those days to notice.

    Needless to say, you are not alone when it comes to the problems of ageing… it’s a war, we can fight it, some battles we will loose, some we will win… but in the end all we can do is to try and grow old gracefully and hope that we have only small health battles and not big ones.

    One thing that no one is asking about in the comments: Onion juice and lemon??? Who came up with that combination??? How on earth do you get the juice out of the onion? This is amazing… the mind boggles, Sooo many questions!

    Get well soonest yes! I’m thinking about you! <> !!!

    1. So I wrote this one some time ago and I’ve been trying, since I read your comment to remember how we made the onion and lemon juice. I’ve since realised, that actually, my husband made it. I remember the smell wafting at me for hours from the kitchen. It was not a nice smell (and the taste was even worse). I remember he chopped lots and lots onions and squeezed several lemons, but I’m not sure what other ingredients there were. I think maybe something sweet like honey? And he cooked them in a pan, at a low temp for several hours. Anyway it was a treatment for bronchitis – I’d had it for weeks and I could not shift it. In the end the ‘juice’ was strained from the concoction and I had to drink a small cup of it several times a day. It was very hard to retain it, let’s just say, but it really did work when nothing else would at all.
      So it cleared my bronchitis, but as with a lot of medicines, it set off another part of my body – this time my stomach. I had huge problems with acidity for quite some time afterwards. And, to this day I can no longer cope well with onions, they now tend to give me a sore tummy. But at least the bronchitis went away!!
      Kiwi daughter’s bug is here too! It’s sweeping through classrooms and families as I type. My son has been ill for several days. I have been spraying disinfectant around, like it’s going out of fashion! I hope your daughter feels well again soon.
      ‘Sun bleached’ is good! Mine seems to have its own mind and a completely different consistency. Wiry. It seems to want to point in a northerly direction. You can always rely on kids to make you feel good. My youngest has been shrieking about my advancing grey for quite some time. In the beginning I tried yanking them out. Maybe that’s why I’m thinning?

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